I met a woman online three months ago and we had an instant connection. After a few days, she confided that her mum had cancer. After a week of nonstop texting we met up and started seeing each other. A month later, her mum died and I never left her side. She decided I needed to be there for the funeral, which was a big step for us both (as was her meeting my two kids). But the next day, she closed up on me, saying she didn’t know when she would be back to her old self again. I am torn. Is she going to throw away what we had, or should I stick around?
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