My fiancee and I are due to marry. I own my home and she moved in 18 months ago. She then left her job and fell pregnant. I pay the mortgage and bills and we put a small amount into a joint account each month for food and our child. My fiancee now has a one-day-a-week job and every pound she earns is hers, while I spend what I have left mostly on us and my daughter. She has complained on social media that I force her to work and the rest of the time she is expected to stay home to look after our child. Now, mums on Facebook groups are encouraging her to leave and say I am controlling. What should I do? It feels as if she wants to be a kept woman like some of her friends.
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