'My dad wants me to be a surrogate for him and his new wife - I feel nauseous'

You'd like to think that you'd do anything for your family, but at which point do you draw the line?

One woman has revealed how her dad asked her to be a surrogate for his child, and how he was disappointed when she declined.

In a post on Reddit, the anonymous woman, 26, explained that her 56-year-old father, who is married to a 40-year-old woman, told her in confidence that they have been trying for a baby for the last two years, and could she keep it to herself.

They are attempting IVF, she said, but aren't having luck.

"He asked if things with IVF don't work out if I would be willing to be a possible surrogate (with donor DNA for both of them)," she said.

"I was shocked and honestly slightly disgusted by the idea."

She told her dad she wouldn't be his surrogate (Getty Images/iStockphoto)

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She went on to say how she's had a rocky relationship with her father and they went a number of years without speaking, so her initial reaction was one of surprise - "All of this makes the fact that he asked so shocking."

"When he asked I gave an awkward chuckle and said, 'I don't even know if I ever want to physically have a child myself and if I do, I would probably use surrogacy myself if I could, you know?'

"He was audibly disappointed when he responded with, 'No, I don't know'. There was an awkward pause and I said, 'Yeah well... sorry but I love you'. And we hung up.

"I was so shocked I thought I had entered the twilight zone and started to feel nauseous."

She recalled how much it "weirded her out" that her dad felt comfortable asking this of her.

"I would like her to put the fear of God into him so he never considers even THINKING of me and surrogacy in the same sentence ever again," she continued.

"My dad is a selfish person. I know he didn't consider the ramifications of what being pregnant and having a child would have on me at all - even if I would not be involved with raising it.

"I know part of why he asked is because he was hoping to save the money a surrogacy agency costs. It's grossing me out that he had to have thought about me being pregnant. I'd like to talk to my mum about this."

She concluded her post by asking whether she should talk to her mother about it despite being told to keep it to herself or try to keep it together knowing she would have to confront her dad about it at some point.

Reddit users were quick to share their thoughts on her situation, and many encouraged her to speak to her mum.

One person said: "I'm usually in the camp of don't spill secrets, but this is a huge ask and if you need to confide in your mum, confide in her. It's something that majorly affects you.

"If it eases your mind, you wouldn't even qualify to be a surrogate. No legit fertility place will allow you to be impregnated, so his attempt to get around other fees would fail. Even the places with the loosest restrictions wouldn't accept a surrogate that has never carried at least one pregnancy to term. It's the most major of requirements."

The original poster thanked them and said: "That does ease my mind! I didn't know that at all. Clearly, his time spent thinking about asking me was not spent wisely enough!"

Another person wrote: "Can you imagine telling people you’re carrying your dad's baby?" to which the woman replied saying: "Right!? How would I explain that to literally anybody?"

A third added: "If he's prepared to ask you to be his surrogate, he has to ALSO be prepared that people are going to find out about it."

While someone else said: "That was a completely inappropriate thing to ask of you."

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