About a year ago, I fell out with a colleague. She had been having issues with her relationship and I had been there to support her. When she began a new relationship, I was happy for her, but she never had a spare evening to spend with me, despite us being so close. When I raised this, she was extremely defensive and we stopped talking. She has now handed in her notice and I’m worried we will never reconcile our differences. We get on fine in the office, but never talk outside work. I miss her company and wish I could be part of her life again. I’m still hurt because I feel she abandoned me with little thought. What can I do to improve the situation?
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