Naming a baby is a really tough decision. There will likely be monikers you'll both agree on, but there may be some that they love that you're not a huge fan of. That's okay, as long as neither party feel pressure to conform to the other's wishes.
But when one person is being particularly pushy, it can get annoying, and arguments may ensue. One woman took to Reddit's 'Am I the a**hole' forum to explain that she'd never particularly wanted children, so when she fell pregnant, she didn't have any particularly preferred names in mind.
A name she wasn't fond of, however, was her partner's name with a III (third) after it - but he was desperate for his son to take that title.
She wrote: "I (20f) never thought that I'd ever have kids. I've never wanted any because when I was little I've had to watch my sister and brother since I was five going on six-years-old. So having kids wasn't really what I wanted, plus birthing kids is something that has always been really scary to me.
"So now that I have a boyfriend who has always wanted kids, has slightly changed my mind. But anyway my boyfriend (21m) and I are talking about having kids and he wants a son to be his full name. His name has a II (Second) in it and he wants the baby to be a III (Third).
"He's had his mind set on having a son named after him for mainly his whole life. And I never had a baby name picked for a baby boy. I was against it at first because I want the name to be something that we both picked out together and I feel like that would mean a lot more to both of us instead of his full name.
"My boyfriend doesn't have a middle name. He also came to me about liking a different name 'Nova' for a boy. I was also against that too because it seemed bland and I felt like that would be a baby girl's name. But the name grew on me and now I like it. I asked today if he wants the baby's name to be his full name and put 'Nova' as a middle name for him.
"He kept saying no and refusing to hear me out as soon as I said that. He would not let me explain what I had to say and kept cutting me off saying no. His words were 'if you give him a middle name then he won't be (first name 'Nova' last name the III)' and it got me upset because it's also my child.
"I would have been birthing the child so why can't I have something in the name that would resemble me as well or something that I like? Why can't I enjoy having a son with something of me besides me giving you the child?
"I kinda feel like he wants the child to resemble him and him only. Nothing if me at all. He was the child to EXACTLY. LIKE. HIM. and I don't think it's fair of him to be so selfish on a name of a baby that is not even here. So am I the a**hole?"
In the comments, people pointed out that the pair did not seem emotionally mature enough to bring a baby into the world, and were asking them to think twice before having a child.
One wrote: "Please, for the love of god. Do not create a new human being now. You are both immature. If you are already fighting over the name of your imaginary babies now. Do you really think you are anywhere near able to provide a stable basis, home, and life for another human being? Also, you can't just order up a boy or a girl."
Another said: "It would be wholly unfair to have a baby right now. First work on making your relationship rock solid, then revisit the idea down the road."
Someone else commented: "Not the a**hole. Tell him that when he makes a baby all by himself, he can name the baby all by himself."
What would you do in this situation? Let us know in the comments.
