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The Guardian - UK
The Guardian - UK
Lifestyle

My boyfriend’s terminal illness was devastating. How do I work my way back?

Frustrated woman using computer
How can I make it clear on my CV that I am capable of so much more? Photograph: Alamy

I was working very successfully in a position related to the construction sector. I made my way up to manager and was very happy. Then, in the 2008 crash, my profession evaporated overnight. I returned to college and sought work in a different sector; it was going well until my boyfriend was diagnosed with terminal cancer in 2012. It was utterly devastating, as you can imagine. I was beside myself. I found myself often crying at work and it made others uncomfortable. I ended up unemployed for about three years. Since then I have slowly recovered but my CV is terrible – it looks like I’m totally irresponsible and flaky. I find myself stuck in tedious, low-paid administration jobs. How can I make it clear on my CV that I am capable of so much more?

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