My boyfriend of six years doesn’t understand why I have a problem with his family not liking me. I have never got an answer as to why: they have always been friendly to my face, but talk about me behind my back. This includes his mother, sister, dad and brother. He has an ex-wife who will not let me play a part in their kid’s lives. She is still really close to his mother – they talk every day. When I try to look at all the facts, I still have no answers – and neither does my boyfriend. I have no one to talk to about it.
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