About a year ago my boyfriend’s brother’s computer was confiscated by the police, who told him that they suspected him of downloading child pornography. He was never charged, and had his computer returned to him. He told my boyfriend that the police admitted there were no charges to be made, and I think he also forwarded the email in which the police told him this.
My boyfriend is adamant this was a miscarriage of justice, and I’ve never suggested otherwise to him, but the whole situation still troubles me. What really bothers me is why the police confiscated the computer in the first place? I think if I could see the email from the police, and if in that email the police clearly admitted they were completely wrong to confiscate the computer, my mind would be put at rest. But am I being unreasonable to ask to see this email or to bring up the issue at all? I don’t want my boyfriend to think I’m accusing his brother, but I’m also conscious that child abuse is a crime that flourishes when people turn a blind eye or simply accept suspicious stories.
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