Early in our relationship, my boyfriend met up with his ex twice in one week and did not tell me. I found out and got upset, but he assured me that they are just friends, which I believe.
When we first got together, I was very stressed because of things I was going through and I undoubtedly overreacted to some things, including this. However, I have discovered that he has subsequently lied or missed out key information on several occasions when he has been out again with his ex, or with friends, or even on his own.
I have raised this issue with him. I understand he might have been worried that I would overreact, but I am struggling to cope with how it is affecting our relationship and my mental health. What should I do?
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