I love my boyfriend very much. We live together and get along really well. The thing is he doesn’t want children and has been open about that from the start. At the beginning, I told him I felt the same but was secretly hoping he’d change his mind. I’m still not sure if I do want kids myself. My friends think I’m just trying to convince myself that I’ll be OK without having children. I’m not so sure, but the window for me to have them is fast closing (I’m 39). What should I do?
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