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Mumsnet users divided over child going to a birthday party without a present

Mumsnet users have been left divided over a post questioning if was rude to go to a kid's birthday party without a present.

As the rate of inflation hit seven per cent, more people are struggling to make ends meet and one mum admitted she was worried about sending her child to a birthday party without a gift.

Taking to parenting forum Mumsnet, she explained her situation.

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Remaining anonymous, she wrote: "Dc [dear child] has been invited to a birthday party, I've never not taken a gift when it's been a child's birthday party but currently have no money whatsoever.

"Would it be unreasonable/cheeky/embarrassing to still take dc? They really want to go but I feel put off because of this!"

She later added that she "literally has 0p" and hoped she could borrow a fiver from a friend.

The post accumulated nearly 300 comments with other mums splitting into two groups - one who agreed they should take something, while others argued it wasn't necessary.

One argued: "You need to take something I would have thought. The Works have really cheap books, even a couple of those and a handmade card would be fine."

A second agreed: "I agree with poster who said about picking up a 29p card and some sweets. I could never send my child empty handed, there would be something little I’d cut out for myself before letting my child go empty handed to a party. They might not have a lot of money either but they’ve still paid for your child to attend so absolutely would have to give something, however small."

Another interjected: "I wouldn't mind if it was my child's party. Particularly if I knew you were having money troubles. Do you know the parents? Could you let them know?"

One mum said: "It's tricky I understand that. As a host, I don't think I would even notice if a guest didn't bring a present.

"However would your child notice that they were the only one not bringing a gift? Even a packet of sweets or a bar of chocolate wrapped up just so they have something to hand over? But ultimately if you can't afford a present, yes still go to the party."

But others argued it was totally fine to go without, pointing out it's the fun and friendships made that is important.

One Mumsnet user said: "Stand out op and go with nothing! my children received a handmade card from their friend and its sat in their bedroom (months later) pride of place! it'll be kept far longer than the accompanying gift."

"I would definitely want a child to enjoy themselves and come to my kid's party. I would hate to think anyone would miss out due to costs", another said.

Reassuring the mum, a third said: "I wouldn't worry about it honestly. There's usually a big pile of gifts and the child isn't going to know if they've not had one off one person. Please still take them as I expect they will all have a lovely time"

"Honestly don't worry about it. It's really not uncommon for kids not to bring something, for all sorts of reasons", another echoed.

One added: "Please don't borrow money for this. Just make a card, I wouldn't even think twice if someone showed up to DDs party with no card or present. Her primary focus is wanting her friends to be there."

And one suggested: "Send a homemade card with an invite for a play date."

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