After having a baby, everything is likely to be a bit chaotic for the mum, with all sorts of changes to your body, your hormones and your home.
One new mum has shared how she was struggling after giving birth to her first child as her emotions had been going "crazy" and her body had been "going through a lot".
As such, she claims she and her husband had agreed they wouldn't let people meet the baby until she was feeling better.
When she finally felt up to introducing her bundle of joy to her in-laws and her own parents, she invited them all over to meet the baby girl - named Ryan.
Writing in a post on Reddit's Am I The A**hole forum, the unnamed mum explained they'd named their baby after her husband's late brother, Ryan.
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The couple loved their name choice - but when his parents arrived, they weren't impressed.
She explained: "My baby's name is Ryan. My husband made the decision on the name and I made the decision on the middle name. He wanted to name her Ryan for his late brother. I love the name and it fit her perfectly.
"Yesterday when the family came over and saw Ryan. My mother-in-law (MIL) asked for the name as soon as they sat down and I told them and they freaked out.
"My MIL was asking what the hell was wrong with me and why would I give the baby a boy name. My husband told them why but they freaked out even more saying that the name they chose for him was for a boy and that even then it's sacred and I shouldn't even have thought about using that name. They were blaming it all on me.
"And then my father-in-law started to join in and called me just an incompetent woman and nothing more than that. After that last insult, they left. As soon as they left I broke down in tears and my family came and consoled me."
The mum goes on to say that the next morning she still felt "horrible" about the situation and that her husband also hadn't been able to sleep that night.
When she confronted him about the issue, he asked if they could change their baby's name as it's not too late to do so.
The man explained that his mother had demanded they change the name to something else and had threatened to have nothing to do with her if her name stayed as Ryan.
She added: "I didn't say another word and left up to the bathroom and have been crying in there ever since.
"I feel horrible, I feel like I just put my husband through hell but I don't want to change the name. Am I the a**hole for not wanting to change the name even though it's hurting my husband right now."
More than 400 people have responded to the post, with people divided over it. Some were quick to brand the husband's parents and "a**hole", but others thought the husband was in the wrong for not better defending his wife - and for wanting to give in to his mum.
One person said: "I don't know, it's his dead brother's name and they sprung it on his parents. I don't blame them for being upset and hurt, those are natural reactions. Mum and her husband should have asked first or at least given a heads up."
Another wrote: "He didn't defend his wife. Tell his parents it was HIS IDEA. Or even give them a heads up, since it was HIS brother and HIS parents HE should have told them BEFORE the birth just to make sure this wouldn't happen. Your husband needs to step up."
A different user added: "It's usually a good idea not to share the name with relatives until the baby is born, but in this case, everybody sucks here - I don't think you considered how traumatic it could be for them to have another person in the family with the same name as the child they lost. you never even spoke to them beforehand to prepare them. Your husband views it as a tribute because it's his idea and he's had time to accommodate to it. Your in-laws did not. Sure, some of their reaction was incredibly mean, and there is no reason for them to blame you - why would you choose their son's name? - but your husband didn't step up to defend you or correct his parents.
"Now, your husband has caved, after he stood by and let his parents berate you. You really should have discussed this with them as it affects them in a way that any other neutral name would not."
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