Choosing the guestlist for your wedding isn't always easy, but most people will want their nearest and dearest with them on their special day - and will make sure their invites reflect how important each guest's attendance is.
But one woman on Mumsnet has been left fuming after her own cousin asked her if she'd be interested in coming to her wedding in a nonchalant text message sent two weeks before her wedding date.
The mum was taken aback by the invite and considered it to be "rude" and "intentionally lukewarm" - as her cousin even assumed she "may not want to come" because she has a baby.
In her post - which was titled "Rude wedding invite" - the mum wrote: "Am I being unreasonable to think this wedding invite comes across as intentionally lukewarm?
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"From my cousin whom I always thought I had a good relationship with, if not a close one. We live in the same city. I received the following via text:
“'Hey, I’m getting married in two weeks’ time. Obviously, you’re invited but I do understand with the baby you may not want to come. The wedding will be at such and such church at such and such time, followed by dinner at 6 pm.'
"That was all. As I say we’re not close but grew up together and see each other a few times a year. It doesn’t seem like a genuine invitation to me at all. Thoughts?"
The post split opinions with those in the comments, as some people thought the invitation was "fine", but others agreed that the tone of the text message made it sound like the mum was an "afterthought" to the guest list.
One person said: "It seems a bit of an afterthought. Who invites someone by text to their wedding two weeks before the event? Bizarre."
While another added: "She was probably forced to invite you but it doesn’t sound like she wants you there, or doesn’t care if you’re there. Sorry!"
But someone else disagreed, stating: "I think maybe she just didn't want you to feel pressured to attend. They wouldn't have invited you if they didn't want you there, and the fact that they say 'obviously you are invited' sounds positive."
As a fourth wrote: "It doesn't seem rude to me."
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