A heartbroken mum whose partner was killed in a hit and run on the way home from a wedding when she was six months pregnant faces a bill of £9,000 to register him as their daughter’s father. Kitchen designer Sophie Jay was happily expecting their first child when she was told that her boyfriend Jack Brandon had died.
The 22-year-old plasterer had gone out for the evening to a friend’s wedding and called her on his way home to tell her he loved her and how excited he was for their future with their baby. Tragically, he never made it home, and in an instant, Sophie went from looking forward to enjoying family life together to being effectively widowed, laying a rose on Jack’s coffin while six months gone.
The Mirror reports that because after daughter Lilah was born last month, Sophie discovered that – because they weren’t married – she would have to go to court and pay an astronomical bill to declare Jack her little girl’s dad. The 20-year-old says: “It’s a basic right for him to be on the birth certificate. Lilah’s lost her dad and now he might not even be on her birth certificate. He lost his life and he doesn’t even get that.”
The death of Jacko, as Sophie called him, had financial implications for his little family. His £35,000 wage plus Sophie’s £30k income was set to provide a comfortable life in their rented flat with their girl. Instead, the £760 rent alone exceeds Sophie’s £600 monthly maternity pay – making meeting the £9,000 legal bill to have Jack added to Lilah’s birth certificate even more of a struggle.
Sophie told the Mirror: “It’s heartbreaking. I have lost my partner, I’m on maternity leave with no other income and I don’t want finances to be the reason why she can’t have her dad on her birth certificate. He was so proud to be her dad already. There’s no way I cannot do this. It means the world to me.”
British law requires a declaration of parentage to be made in court for a deceased parent’s name to be registered if they died before the baby’s birth. This involves additional expenses including DNA tests to prove paternity and solicitor’s fees, estimated by a family law expert to total up to £9,000.
Gemma Davison, senior associate at Stowe Family Law, said: “In this case, as the couple were not married, the mother will need to apply to the family court for a declaration of parentage to have the father’s name on the birth certificate. This can be a complex area of family law and incurs costs. The court fee for the application alone is £365.” DNA tests cost around £380 and legal fees range from £5,000 to £8,000.
For Sophie, of Burgess Hill, West Sussex, it is the latest in a series of blows. She says: “Jacko’s last words to me were ‘I love you.’ Then my life was ruined. I’ve lost my best friend and my daughter has lost her dad. Jacko will never get to walk her down the aisle or make those precious memories with her.”
Jacko was so delighted his child was on the way that after their 20-week scan he hand-wrote a heartfelt letter to his unborn baby girl for her to read on her 18th birthday. Now his letter is one-month-old Lilah’s only chance to hear from the daddy she will never meet.
Jacko wrote: “Today, Mummy and I found out that our lives would change forever. As you are reading this, you’ll be all grown up and making me very proud I’m sure. No matter what you do with your life, your career, love life, I want you to be happy and remember I’ll always be proud of you. I hope that the memories you and I make have made you smile as much as they will for me.”
Relying on friends and family for support as she waits for her Universal Credit to kick in, Sophie is now preparing for her daughter’s first Christmas – with no daddy. She says: “I know Jacko would have been prancing around to try and make Lilah laugh.”
Tragedy struck on July 3, when Jacko was returning from a friend’s wedding. Sophie says: “We had been shopping after work earlier that day in Mammas and Papas for the baby and then he went to the wedding in the evening. He called me around 1am while he was walking home and said he had never seen happiness like it and couldn’t wait for our wedding one day.
“We used to do the lift from Dirty Dancing and he asked if we could do it as our first dance at our wedding.”
That was their last conversation. Jacko was struck and killed on the B2112 New Road, between Ditchling and Clayton. Police arrested a 53-year-old man from Hove, East Sussex, on suspicion of causing death by dangerous driving. He has been released under investigation while enquiries continue.
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