It's not uncommon for people to complain about all their work frustrations to their other half when they're feeling overworked or fed up as it's always nice to tell someone who will be on your side. However, one husband has been left confused after he thought he was doing his wife who was constantly grumbling a favour but instead left her very angry, the Mirror reports.
The man took to Reddit's Am I the A**hole forum to explain his wife was continuously moaning to him about being overworked so he took it upon himself to contact her boss but she saw this as 'misogynistic' of him and a breach of trust. He wrote: "My wife has been putting in 10-14 hour days chained to her computer for the past two to three weeks, through weekends as well.
"Wasn’t able to take any days off for the holidays either. She’s been screaming obscenities about her job, how she wants to quit, how it's ridiculous she's working so hard without any break. There have been multiple tear-filled days."
The man explained he has been 'walking on eggshells' around his partner and done 'everything he can to help' but that he feels he's 'on edge constantly watching for an explosion' to erupt around her.
He continued: "Today (working through the weekend again), she was screaming about other people she worked with screwing her up and I just couldn’t take it anymore. I pinged her boss and said 1) there are limits for human beings, 2) this kind of thing can’t happen again next year. He agreed and said he'd try to help."
However, when his wife found out about the conversation she was not happy. She told her husband 'it was extremely misogynistic to message her boss to say she can't handle her job' which he claimed he didn't say.
He added: "Says she can’t ever trust me anymore to talk about work or how she’s feeling. Generally threw me in the doghouse. Am I the a**hole here? I honestly don’t know. I can't stand to see her that strung out by work, but did I cross the line too far?"
Many other users agreed he had taken it a step too far by contacting her boss as he could have potentially 'sabotaged her future at the company'.
One person wrote: "He totally sabotaged her future at the company. She's going to be known as the employee with the crazy husband that everyone is going to work about being an HR nightmare if they interact with her in the wrong way, and might ultimately cost her her job."
Another replied: "I don't know what field your wife works in, but women often have to fight a lot harder for promotions and raises than men do. You get to hear her stress, but I am sure she plays it off as being totally cool and collected to her coworkers. What you did is essentially tell her boss that she cannot handle the work load and it's not your place to do that even a little bit."
A third remarked: "How could you possibly think this is okay? Not only are you an a**hole, you violated your wife's trust and a sacred confidence. Things aren't looking good for you here."
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