A young man claims he's stayed loyal to his friend whose past infidelity recently came to light, but his own wife isn't too happy about it. According to this man, his pal's unfaithfulness came to light after a past flame from his military days reached out to his wife, admitting they'd slept together.
This has apparently "caused a great deal of havoc to their marriage", leading to things being "super tense" between the couple. Although the man understands why his friend's wife is so very hurt, he personally feels she has acted in a "toxic" way, by "taking advantage of this situation to get her way on everything."
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Taking to Reddit, the 27-year-old man - who goes by the username u/throawayacct717008 - explained: "Most recently, she basically guilt-tripped my friend into buying an expensive cat because in her words she 'deserves it'. They already have five other cats and two small babies, and not a lot of economic resources to add another expensive cat into the mix.
"My buddy agreed as a way to keep the peace. He’s trying to save his marriage, but at what cost? She’s doing whatever she wants (leaving him the kids to go out late, making him do extra work around the house even though he works a very physical job, and now the whole cat situation)."
While speaking with his wife about the situation, he argued the betrayed woman was acting in an "unreasonable" way. However, she disagreed, and emphasised how hurt she must have been following the revelation.
He continued: "As I said, I can empathise, but this is no excuse to treat my friend like dirt. There’s a healthy and unhealthy way to deal with the situation, and she’s choosing the unhealthy way to go about it and causing more damage."
His own wife is now furious at him for taking this attitude, and declares she'll support their friend's wife with "whatever she needs." These opposing positions have since created a rift between them, and he's begun to wonder whether he might be the one in the wrong.
One fellow Reddit user advised: "You're right that his wife is not reacting appropriately, since this marriage is clearly long dead. She should just divorce him. But your friend is the one responsible for killing it, and now he has to face the consequences of his own actions.
"I can understand helping him out if he needs a place to stay or something, but do not take his side. He is absolutely the one in the wrong."
Another commented: "You basically told your wife that cheating isn’t a big deal and that the wife should get over it. Your friend screwed up his marriage. He is reaping what he sowed.
"You are dumb enough to put your marriage on the line to defend him? If you don’t separate yourself from your friend’s affair issues, your wife will draw that line for you."
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