Wedding planning can be a stressful experience - especially when it comes to deciding on the ideal guest list.
While you may strive to invite every extended relative, your specific budget may not allow for it - and it can be very difficult deciding what friends should attend.
Usually, however, there are no squabbles over whether your own children can attend the special day.
One dad has faced a torrent of criticism online after admitting he does not plan on inviting his nine-year-old daughter to his wedding because she is reportedly not as 'sophisticated' as her 18-year-old sister, reports The Mirror.
Taking to Reddit to post, the 46-year-old asked for views on whether or not it's bad to only invite his eldest child.
The strong feedback made it clear that he would be - especially as his nine-year-old is desperate to attend.
He wrote: “My fiancée is a very sophisticated person and has exquisite tastes.
“She also does not really care for young children and that has created tension between her and my youngest daughter.”
Their ceremony was originally delayed by Covid, but the couple is finally going ahead with their "lavish and expensive wedding".
The man continued: “Due to the nature of the wedding and my fiancee’s preferences, our wedding is going to be child free.
“We will, however, be inviting my oldest as she is no longer a child, and because, unlike my youngest, she and my fiancée get along well.”
Naturally, this exclusion hasn't gone down well with his youngest daughter, whose mum left her when she was six-years-old.
“I didn’t realise my youngest expected to come to the wedding,” the dad admitted.
“She tried to tag along with my fiancée and my oldest when they were going shopping for a dress for my oldest because she thought she needed a dress too.
“I explained to her that the wedding was going to be for adults only and she wouldn’t be attending. She started crying and getting mad which stressed out my fiancée.
“She has been distraught about this for days and hasn’t let it go.”
His parents have now become involved - and told their son they won't attend if their grand-daughter isn't there as they'll be spending the day with her.
But the man still doesn't agree as the "wedding would not be suitable for a child".
He added: "I don’t want my fiancée to have to deal with my daughter on the most important day of her life.
"My parents told me I was being a terrible father by prioritising my fiancée over my daughter and that on the day of the wedding they would take my daughter out for a special day, which means they wouldn’t be at the wedding."
On Reddit, lots of people urged the man to reconsider the whole marriage.
One commented: "She’s a nine-year-old. I mean come on.
"Your fiancée should not be your fiancée if she can’t love your kid. That’s about to be her mother and your prioritisation is going to ruin your relationship with your daughter long term, especially if you don’t let her attend the wedding."
"What a terrible way to start your life with this person. You are literally giving this woman permission to treat your NINE-YEAR-OLD daughter like a second-class citizen from the get-go," blasted another.
A third succinctly added: "I don't know why you are marrying a woman who isn't willing to take you and your children as a whole package, and you've handled this entire situation terribly."
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