It is no secret that wedding invites can sometimes ruffle feathers. For instance, younger family members can end up feeling left out if the couple opts for an adults-only occasion. But one groom who was keen for his niece to be a part of celebrations, still managed to cause upset, as he failed to invite her nanny.
And the snub, which he thought nothing of, has caused more trouble than he could have ever imagined, as the girl's mum says she cannot attend without her nanny present. What's more, she expects her brother to splash up the cash so the nanny can go.
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But unable to afford another guest, the groom feels he has been left between a rock and a hard place - a problem made worse by his difficulty understanding his sister's reasoning.
Taking to Reddit 's Am I the A**hole forum to ask for advice, the man shared his predicament. He explained: "I have a 6 year old niece. I invited my niece, my sister and my brother-in-law to my wedding but not the nanny. My sister is really mad about it. The reason I didn't invite the nanny is because of cost.
"My sister and brother-in-law are lawyers and they work at 2 of the biggest law firms in the entire country. They both made $200,000 (£164,721) right out of law school. They can afford to have a full time live in nanny to care for my niece and to have an agency on retainer to provide a part time back up if the regular nanny is sick or on a day off. My sister says they can't be without the nanny for the wedding."
He continued: "The wedding starts in the afternoon and the dinner and reception is right after the ceremony. It's not an all day thing and the wedding is happening in the same city as my sister and my brother-in-law live in. It's not an out of town or all day thing.
"It's just going to be a few hours but my sister says they can't go without the nanny that long but my niece will be sad if she can't come because the nanny already took her dress shopping and my niece is excited. I don't have it in the budget to provide a place or dinner for another person.
"I already consulted my sister about what dates would work for her before we chose the date and booked the location because both her and my brother-in-law work long hours including weekends and holidays and I did want my sister there so we worked to find a day they could have a few hours away from work to attend the wedding.
"I'm not just assuming the long hours. My sister and brother-in-law have missed things like Thanksgiving before and my sister told me they can go a days without seeing each other because their work is busy sometimes."
He concluded: "They wouldn't pay for the nanny to have a place and dinner before we had to finalize everything with the catering and venue, they insist we need to invite her even though we can't afford it because my niece wants to come. When I told her once and for all the nanny can't come she was not happy with me."
But social media users were quick to rush o the man's defence, reassuring him he was not the one at fault.
One person wrote: "What kind of parents can't look after their own child for one day? Jeeze.
"NTA. Don't give in to such ridiculous demands OP. They could have paid for her if they had wanted her there."
A second said: "You are absolutely not required to invite an employee of your sister’s household to your wedding, as beloved as they may be. And their insistence that paying for their nanny is a 'wedding expense' is mind-boggling. If she wants childcare at an event, she can pay for it."
And another agreed: "You’ve been more than accommodating. They can leave your niece at home or they can actually parent her for the few hours of your big day."
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