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Chris Jaffray

Lingerie model, 23, says she's never felt sexual attraction to anyone

A stunning lingerie model who has nearly 20,000 online fans says she is completely asexual and has never felt sexual attraction for anyone.

Yasmin Benoit 23, has never had sex or a relationship and says she has no desire to change this, despite one day wanting to be a mother.

The asexuality activist said she realised as early as the age of nine that she was asexual, meaning she does not experience sexual attraction at all.

She said that as she grew up, friends and family members assumed she was gay and unable to come out, while others thought she was very well-behaved.

Now Yasmin, a graduate in crime science from UCL, travels the world to try and bust myths and stereotypes about asexuality.

The lingerie model, who has nearly 20,000 followers for her photo shoots, said she doesn't think her job and orientation are a contradiction.

Yasmin, from Reading, said: "I realised when I was about nine I was asexual. Other people started fancying each other and I didn't, so that was when I knew.

"It actually wasn't a concern for me. I am quite a nonconformist person and didn't think it was the most interesting thing about me. I was a black girl in a mostly white school who loved heavy metal music.

"But no one really got it. Some people thought I was gay but hadn't worked it out yet, others treated me like a toddler who didn't understand sex and adults thought I was well-behaved.

"I am also aromantic, which means I don't experience romantic attraction and have no real understanding of it.

"I've heard the argument before that me working as a fashion and lingerie model and being asexual are a contraction - but am I supposed to only ever wear a potato sack just because I'm asexual?

"The stereotypes around asexuality are that we are unattractive, we haven't found the right person, or we are gay and haven't come out.

"I don't find it strange that people fancy me though. It is no different to walking down the street and having people look at me.

"It's a part of modelling. Who doesn't want to look good?

"I think I have changed a lot of people's views about what it is to be asexual and what you are supposed to look like."

Yasmin is determined to raise awareness of asexuality, as she said it doesn't get as much attention or understanding as other sexual orientations.

She said she may one day have sex in order to get pregnant, but would still choose not to be in a relationship.

She added: "It doesn't affect me at the moment. It would probably affect me if I was trying to have a relationship, but it's just something in my life I don't have to think about.

"I have never felt like I am missing out on anything. I have other fulfilling things I am planning to do with my life other than get married - and while I do plan on having kids, I have no idea how I am going to produce them.

"I would maybe consider having sex to have a child, but you don't need a relationship to have children."

Yasmin is invited to Pride talks and events all over the world to talk about her orientation.

She said: "I feel asexuality hasn't had the same attention as the other sexualities, so most people's views haven't changed.

"I do get a lot of messages online, but that's why I do this. If you can change someone's life through something as simple as an online post, you might as well do it.

"It can be a messy place online, but my friends in the asexual community are very supportive."

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