Does your cat cuddle with you? Some cats can be extremely affectionate, while others better fit the stereotype of the aloof feline who might like a pet here and there but nothing too over the top.
If you’d rather your cat cuddled with you more often – after all, you’re always straight there with the best cat treats for them – here’s what to remember, courtesy of certified cat behaviorist Saba Sayyed, or A Cat Behaviourist, as she’s known on Instagram.
“Every cat parent has been there, you reach for a cuddle, and they look at you like you’ve lost your mind,” begins Sayyed. “But before you take it personally, here’s the facts. Your cat isn’t rejecting you. They’re not being difficult.”
What we have to adjust to as humans is cats not showing their love in the way we expect, or the way we’re used to. Generally, cats will prefer sitting near us rather than on us, offering slow blinks rather than headbutts. Rather than sitting on your lap and falling asleep, they might follow you around.
As Sayyed continues, “Forcing affection? That’s how you lose their trust. Respect their space, and they’ll come to you, on their terms.”
Do cats know we love them? Cats do develop strong bonds with us, and some behaviorists think that our felines view us as their parents. This is why they might display signs of affection, which could range from those classic slow blinks to kneading, licking, and even lying on their back to expose their stomach. These are among the sweetest ways cats show affection, but there are all sorts of ways your cat might decide to show their love.
It’s important to remember not to take a lack of cuddles or physical affection personally, and take into account the potential reasons for your cat being more standoffish. If your cat is a rescue cat, they may have been feral or stray in the past and still be learning how to interact with humans, or they may have been abused in the past. For some cats, even just existing in your presence could be a big step.
If your cat suddenly stops enjoying cuddles or becomes less affectionate, however, they could be in pain. It’s a good idea to speak to the vet if you have any concerns.
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