My younger sister, who is married with three grown-up children, has had severe depression in the past and tried to kill herself. She has since recovered and used her share of our inheritance to retrain for a new career. When her husband became ill and they ran into financial difficulties, I helped them with two loans, neither of which has been repaid. I am not well-off – my ex-husband paid no maintenance for our two children, my job involves an expensive commute and my rent has risen. I have explained this to my sister but she doesn’t seem to take it in. I am beginning to feel resentful – and worried about my own financial future.
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