Dear Coleen, I’m a woman in my early 30s and I want to buy some sex toys to spice up my sex life with my boyfriend.
However, I don’t really know how to approach this with him, as I’m worried he’ll take it personally and think he’s not enough for me.
I say this because, when we got together four years ago, he wasn’t that sexually confident and had only had one partner before me.
I know this has always been a bit of an issue for him, even though we never talk about it.
What would you suggest?
Coleen says
I would probably bring it up casually instead of coming home armed with a box of vibrators.
Just test the water: “It might be fun if we tried using some sex toys together – what do you think?”
If you’re putting it to him like it’s something you can enjoy together, then I don’t see why he would be offended.
If he is insecure about sex, then it’s just about how you broach it with him – involve him, have a laugh about it and help to build his confidence in bed.
