For those wishing to have a traditional wedding, one of the biggest rules they’ll follow involves not allowing the groom to see the bride’s wedding dress until the big reveal on their wedding day.
But one couple has had part of the surprise ruined for them, after the bride showed a picture of the dress to her sister-in-law, only for her to comment on some of the features in front of the groom.
Posting about the frustrating moment on Reddit, the bride-to-be said she was upset that her sister-in-law had ruined the surprise – especially as she’d told her the importance of keeping it a secret just moments before.
She wrote: “My fiancé and I were having dinner at his brother’s house. My fiancé and his brother are pretty much all each other has family wise. I have never had a problem with my brother-in-law and his wife, if anything I get along great with them.
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“My fiancé and I aren’t really sticklers for tradition, but one tradition that I really love that we are going to stick to is the groom not seeing the dress until the wedding. I don’t know why, but that’s special to me and my fiancé gets that.
“I had recently found and purchased my dress, which my sister-in-law asked me about over dinner. She asked if I had any pictures and I said I do. She asked if she could see them and I said sure, as long as she didn’t show my fiancé!
“I pulled up a chair next to her with my fiancé on the other side of the table, and got up a picture on my phone. She immediately said ‘Oh my god the lace on that train! And those sleeves, I thought you’d go for strapless!’
“I was a little dumbfounded, but I pretty quickly locked my phone and just said ‘Oop! Nope, that’s too much, we’re done.’ I really tried to say it with some laughter in my voice but on the inside, I was a little, mad and sad that she had basically spoiled a few pretty big details about my dress that I wanted to surprise my fiancé with.
“I just wish she hadn’t been so specific with her remarks.”
The bride-to-be said that after the night was over, her partner’s brother text him to tell him that she shouldn’t have “scolded” his wife over the comments.
And while her fiancé can understand why she was upset, he thinks she should apologise just to “keep the peace”.
She added: “For the rest of the night I could tell my sister-in-law was a little down, and that night my brother-in-law texted my fiancé saying that I didn’t need to scold his wife like that, and that it’s just a dress.
“My fiancé had told me to not worry, that he still has virtually no idea what the dress looks like, and that maybe I should just apologise to keep peace.
“Realistically I know she really didn’t give that much away and maybe I am being overly controlling. I’ll probably apologise like my fiancé suggested.”
But commenters on Reddit insisted she shouldn’t have to apologise, as her sister-in-law needed to be stopped before she spilled even more details about the dress.
One person wrote: “Your sister-in-law was told you wanted to keep it secret. Maybe she just exclaimed in excitement, but you were not rude to her.”
And another said: “I know she got excited but for crying out loud. You had to stop her. You just locked your phone before she could continue to a full description.”
While a third posted: “She agreed not to show your fiancé the photos and then went and narrated them instead! You handled it just fine. But I understand apologising for the sake of peace.”
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