I am a stay-at-home mother with two children, aged one and three. I try to do the best for them, but my husband and I constantly argue. He suffers from anxiety and is an alcoholic. I have epilepsy and can’t drive. I have two degrees in social work.
I try to communicate with my husband but he just yells and swears, or gets angry and punches things. We tried counselling, but he said he was only there for me, not himself. I don’t feel he is trying. He is more focused on playing video games. I am lonely, lost and confused. I want to leave, but don’t know how to go about it. He gets his pay cheques and I only have a small amount of money for my disability.
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