I am a 32-year-old man and I have trouble with growing up. I aspire to be a “man” but at the same time I don’t know if this is what I really want to be just yet. My girlfriend of two years is older and wants kids with a reliable partner, but she needs me to grow up before this could conceivably happen. We often have arguments, always centered around my selfishness and uncommunicative attitude. Sometimes it feels as if she is my mother and I happily play the role of the young boy, especially if this means I don’t have to grow up. I worry that I don’t have the knowledge or the will to be a man yet, and then additionally I worry that I won’t mature at all, or it will be too late before I realise that I’ve messed it all up. Can you help me make the leap from boyhood to manhood and be happy about it?
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