When you get married, you want your friends and family members there to support you on your big day, with those closest to you often taking on important roles in the wedding itself, such as maid of honour or best man.
But one man has caused a rift with his fiancée after he announced he wants one of his closest friends to take the role of best man at their wedding - because it turns out that friend also happens to be his ex.
The 27-year-old man explained he is bisexual and long before he met his fiancée, he and his best friend decided to give romance a try between them and dated for "less than a month" before realising they were better off as mates.
And although the man's 30-year-old fiancée knows that the pair are close friends, she only recently found out about their brief romance - and is livid her partner never told her.
In a post on Reddit, the groom-to-be said: "Near the end of the year I'm going to be marrying the love of my life, we have been together for four years now. Since I popped the question we've been busy planning, and one of the first things we decided was our wedding party. We both already knew exactly who we were going to ask and we had no issues with each other's choices, at least at the beginning.
"My fiancée recently found out that I used to date my best man and is furious I never told her he was my ex and that I had not only invited him but also wanted him in the wedding party.
"The thing is, I never purposely hid the fact we use to date from her, I just genuinely forgot. We have been friends for years and we got on so well we decided to give it a try and it just wasn't meant to be. we were 'together' for less than a month and it wasn't really that different from how we were being friends except we had sex sometimes.
"I have to actively be reminded of it as it's not something I think about, when I look at him I don't see an ex I see my best friend of over 10 years. He was my friend for years before we dated and years after. I don't think it classes him as an ex and I don't think it should mean he's excluded from my wedding. But my fiancée is adamant that it's disrespectful to her and that it's her wedding so she should get a say.
"I don't want to exclude him but if I knew she would react like this I might have just invited him as a guest."
Commenters on the post were largely on the woman's side, as many accused him of "lying" to his future wife about his dating history and told the man it was "inappropriate" to have his ex in his wedding party.
One person said: "Hiding some facts about your past romantic relationship is the same as lying. Why did you not tell her about him?"
While another added: "It's inappropriate to have someone you used to date be your best man because it's very awkward for your wife to be in the presence of someone you used to date, especially when you two are getting married. It's as if you never even moved on."
But another wrote: "It was an honest mistake. But I think you need to have a talk with her about why she feels disrespected without trying to discount her feelings. Even though I can see this happening, and I believe you were honest, she deserves to have her feelings respected. Asking for forgiveness might be your best bet here."
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