Dear Coleen,
I’m in love with a guy I met on a dating site about a year ago. The only problem is, he’s 25 and I’m 32 and I can’t help worrying about the age gap as we go forward.
We look the same age, we like the same things and we have a lot of fun together, but I still feel like I’m at a different life stage. He’s only been out of university for three years, while I’m looking for a life partner, marriage and babies.
What do you think?
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Coleen says,
It’s not a big age gap, but I think the crucial phrase is “life stage”.
If you are ready to start a family and you’re seeking commitment, then you really need to be up front about that before you go any further down the line in the relationship with him.
At 32, these are the golden years for your fertility and you don’t want to look back in 10 years’ time and regret not being a mum because your partner wasn’t ready to be a dad.
Don’t be afraid of having the conversation – it’s not like you’ve only just met, you’ve been seeing each other for a year and it’s perfectly reasonable that you want to think about your future.
If he’s scared off by that, then he’s not the guy for you.
