After losing my marketing job last September, I have lost the motivation to keep applying for other jobs. I stopped counting how many interviews I had done when I hit double figures. I have a part-time job and write, so am kept fairly busy, which helps to keep my mind off the fact that I haven’t seriously applied for any jobs for a month now. I so desperately wanted the last job I interviewed for and was gutted not to get it. I feel stuck in the “can’t get a job because I have no experience, can’t get experience because I can’t get a job” trap. Applying, researching a company and travelling to interviews, all to repeatedly come to nothing, has been depressing. I now can’t bring myself to apply for anything because I have lost confidence. Common sense tells me this situation won’t fix anything, but I don’t know what to do.
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