Sometimes your husband, wife or partner can become a sounding board for all your work frustrations. Whether you're overworked, feeling frustrated or just fed up, it's always nice to tell someone who will be on your side.
But one husband has been left feeling confused after he tried to do a nice thing after his wife kept complaining to him about work – and she got angry.
The man explained to Reddit's Am I The A**hole forum that his wife kept complaining to him about being overworked, so he eventually asked her boss to try to help – but she saw this as a breach of trust.
He explained: "My wife has been putting in 10-14 hour days chained to her computer for the past two to three weeks, through weekends as well. Wasn’t able to take any days off for the holidays either.
"She’s been screaming obscenities about her job, how she wants to quit, how it's ridiculous she's working so hard without any break. There have been multiple tear-filled days."
The man explained that he has been "walking on egg shells" and done "everything he can to help", but that he's "on edge constantly watching for an explosion".
He continued: "Today (working through the weekend again), she was screaming about other people she worked with screwing her up and I just couldn’t take it anymore. I pinged her boss and said 1) there are limits for human beings, 2) this kind of thing can’t happen again next year. He agreed and said he'd try to help."
However, his wife found out about the conversation and was not happy. She told her husband "it was extremely misogynistic to message her boss to say she can’t handle her job," which he claimed he didn't say.
He added: "Says she can’t ever trust me anymore to talk about work or how she’s feeling. Generally threw me in the doghouse. Am I the a**hole here? I honestly don’t know. I can't stand to see her that strung out by work, but did I cross the line too far?"
Most of the commenters agreed that he should not have contacted the boss, and that he could have sabotaged her future at the company.
One person said: "He totally sabotaged her future at the company. She's going to be known as the employee with the crazy husband that everyone is going to work about being an HR nightmare if they interact with her in the wrong way, and might ultimately cost her her job."
Another explained: "I don't know what field your wife works in, but women often have to fight a lot harder for promotions and raises than men do. You get to hear her stress, but I am sure she plays it off as being totally cool and collected to her coworkers. What you did is essentially tell her boss that she cannot handle the work load and it's not your place to do that even a little bit."
A third added: "How could you possibly think this is okay? Not only are you an a**hole, you violated your wife's trust and a sacred confidence. Things aren't looking good for you here."
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