A woman is being urged to reconsider her marriage, after confessing she recently refused to help her husband cover his hospital bills, because they don't share finances.
The 31-year-old and her husband, 36, have been married for three years and have always kept their finances separate, which isn't entirely unusual.
But, after sharing a recent dispute over the cost of a dress and some unexpected medical bills, people on Reddit have been questioning why they ever got married in the first place.
"We don't share finances and we each contribute to household expenses equally and individually. He's pretty adamant on being respected when it comes to money, meaning I should not be asking him for money to pay for personal stuff, and the same goes for him. Save for when it's an emergency," she wrote on Reddit's AITA forum.
Last month, the woman was out shopping for a dress to wear at her sister's wedding, when she discovered the money in her bank account wasn't going to be enough for what she needed.
"I called my husband to ask him for money, about £150, but he refused even though he had the money. I wasn't upset... Well, yes I'm not gonna lie, I WAS upset about it 'cause I ended up buying a cheaper dress but I didn't make a fuss or fight with him for not giving me money."
A few weeks later, the woman's husband was involved in an accident. Fortunately it wasn't serious, but he did injure his knee, which required hospital treatment.
"He asked if I could help him pay for the hospital bill because he didn't expect to stay longer due to his injury but I refused, he begged but I said no was still no," she continued.
"He tried to guilt me into paying by saying that I have money, and that he's dealing with an emergency. I said his irresponsibility, whether with money or driving wasn't my problem."
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In the end, her husband got the extra money from his mum, who was furious at her and told her she was "devoid of empathy or any wife material" by refusing to help her husband pay.
"I was bothered by her harassment and told my husband to get her to back off, but he sided with her. I had an argument with him about his double standards where I'm expected to pay for him and him not doing the same for me like the dress incident a month ago," the woman wrote.
"He looked at me in disbelief, called me insane and said that I was at fault for not helping him cause, unlike the dress incident, this was actually an emergency, even said I stepped out of line to act this petty and vindictive. I walked out of the room to cool off but it lasted for days and he's still salty about it."
The woman then turned to Reddit to question whether she was justified in withholding the money from husband, leaving many people questioning why on Earth they ever chose to get married in the first place.
"Spouses help each other out, especially when it comes to injuries or something serious like this. The fact is you were absolutely being petty and cruel with him and that was uncalled for. I understand your stance, but that wasn't the way to handle it," one Reddit user commented.
"He was an a**hole for how he reacted and his mother certainly shouldn't have made those comments towards you. Both of you behaved childishly and immaturely and refused to act like adults. In marriage, you work together and you both need to learn how to do that."
Another agreed: "This marriage is going nowhere. Get out now as neither of you are invested in the other."
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