When it comes to children, parents only want what is best for them.
At times, this can cause disagreements and upset - with the children and with other family members who might have other ideas about how things should be done.
One mum claims to be having issues with her own family as her sister really wants to spend more time with her nephew, but the parent doesn't think that's what's best for her son.
This has hurt her sister and her parents have gotten involved in the situation.
The woman has since taken to Reddit to ask whether she's in the wrong for not wanting her son to spend time at her sister's home.
In her anonymous post on the Am I The A**hole forum, the woman explains that she and her younger sister used to be close but grew apart when she moved away for university.
They reconnected a few years later and she would babysit for the other woman's kids.
Since she has had her own child, her sister has offered to return the favour and at first she didn't have an issue with it.
Until her son came back from his aunt's house and wasn't his usual self.
She wrote: "A few times she asked if my son (4) could come hang out with his cousins, and I have allowed it. Especially now that baby two is due soon.
"It's nice to have some rest. But when my son comes back from a day with her he's hungry, cranky and generally just not happy.
"He says he gets food but his cousins take it from him. He's also said they don't like playing with him and break stuff when he's playing with them. After three times of the same issue and each time bringing it up to my sister I said no more.
"She was hurt. She asked me why I didn't trust her. I said when my son leaves my home at 10am and doesn't get home until 4 or 5, I expect him to eat something in that time. She said he does."
The mum tried to make it up to her sister by suggesting the cousins do play dates together but she was offended.
"She said everything was fine and he's just not used to the chaos of five other kids in the house.
"I ended up needing to go to the hospital a few weeks ago and she offered to babysit and my husband agreed so he could join me. She showed up with the kids and my husband was gone two hours and when he got back it was chaos.
"There was mess and our son was yet again cranky, which isn't like him.
"I asked her if everything was okay and she has told me she's fine. She said she's hurt I won't give her more time with her nephew and I said I needed to put him first."
Her parents then got involved asking why she wouldn't let her sister take care of the child, when she clearly needed some help.
She told them the truth and says they understood her decision.
However, now her sister has accused her of 'shaming' her in front of their parents and has branded her an a**hole.
So she asked fellow Reddit users if her sister was right and she was wrong to speak to her parents.
Hundreds of people responded, with many agreeing the mum was in the right.
One person said: "It sounds like your child is being bullied, abused, and neglected while under your sister’s care and she is doing nothing to stop it, and what’s more, she doesn’t seem to care. You’re protecting your child, that’s the most important thing."
Another commented: "There is a difference between tattling and answering a direct question."
A third added: "I think it’s worse than that. The nephew is the new toy the others gang up on to bully and mess with. Things always seem so great because instead of the kids bothering her, they’re quietly busy tormenting their cousin. So apart from throwing some snacks on the table, she gets to kick it for a few hours. OP is right to keep her kid home and tell her parents the truth."
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