An expectant mum has come under fire online after announcing she refused to give her unborn son her husband's surname.
Despite it being traditional for wives and children to take on the man's last name, the mum-to-be decided against this when she married her hubby three years ago.
At the time, however, they came to an agreement that any future children would take on his name, to appease his traditional family - but with their first child on the way, the woman has now grown to regret her decision.
"When I married my husband I kept my maiden name which he was perfectly okay with. We already discussed this and agreed that any future kids we have will automatically take his last name. His family considers this huge deal and I decided to keep to just go with it," she wrote on Reddit's AITA forum.
"But recently I started thinking about it a lot more and figured that it would be unfair for my unborn son to take my husband's family name and not mine. I talked to my family and they said my husband and in-laws are ridiculous to push this on me without a compromise expecting I go with it."
The woman went home and told her husband she'd changed her mind about their child's last name, and had decided she wanted their son to have their surnames combined, or she would be changing his name to hers.
"He was confused saying we had an agreement and then asked what was the cause of this sudden change of mind. I told him and he said I can't just do that and called me selfish when I pointed out that I'm the mother I get a say too," she continued.
"We went back and forth on this and he said no way he and his family will let me do this to his son, as if my last name is a disgrace. We had a fight and we stopped talking after this. He said that I broke and violated my part of the deal and I should just 'deal' with it now but I won't accept it."
The woman then turned to Reddit to question whether others also agreed with her husband, or whether they thought she too made a valid point.
"You literally mention that you’ve had this promise at least since you were married and have both discussed and agreed! He is right to be upset knowing you have already agreed and it’s a big deal to his family, which you are aware of," one Reddit user commented.
"It must be out of nowhere for him, yes you are the wife and future mum but that doesn’t mean you can just switch sides and go back on your word whenever you feel like it."
Meanwhile another added: "Hyphenated is a reasonable compromise, but you’re still an a**hole for agreeing to give them his name and going back on it now that it’s time to follow through on your word."
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