Dear Coleen, I’m married with two children and I love my husband, but I’ve become fixated on a good friend’s husband who is just the loveliest guy I’ve ever met.
I’m so attracted to him and can’t deal with the guilt because my friend (his wife) is also an amazing person.
I don’t think I’d ever be stupid enough to act on these feelings and destroy my friendships and my marriage, but I think about this man quite a lot and love any opportunity to see him.
Can you give me some advice?
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Coleen says
Yes, don’t go there.
You need to look at your own life and work out what you need.
You can love someone, but it doesn’t mean everything is right and you have everything you want from the relationship, so look at what’s missing.
Maybe your friend’s hubby treats her in ways you’d like your husband to treat you.
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Look, the grass always seems greener.
I bet you only see this couple when it’s all lovely and they’re getting on great – you don’t see him farting in bed (which I guess is good in its own way if you can be that at ease with each other!).
This sounds like a big crush to me, so focus on what you’ve got and think about everything you could potentially lose by going further with these feelings.
