Everybody knows somebody with specific dietary requirements, and it's important for people who have them, to stick to them. If you're dairy intolerant, and it causes a physical reaction to you when you eat or drink dairy, then eating it isn't a good idea, and the people around you will be understanding of that.
That's why one woman was left baffled when her boyfriend's mum served her a korma...with cream in it. She took to Reddit's 'Am I the a**hole' forum to explain how hurt she was when her boyfriend's mum 'looked at her as if she was some sort of alien and asked why on earth a chicken korma would be dairy free'. And she was even more concerned that her boyfriend may not have passed the message on.
She wrote: "For context, I am dairy intolerant. It gives me the sh**s and makes me incredibly sick.
"So I (F24) have been dating this guy James (M27) for six months now. We live in California (he moved here for a job, I’ve just always lived here) whereas his parents live in Missouri so I've never really had a chance to properly meet them.
"About a week ago James told me he was going up to Missouri for a few days to visit his parents and asked me if I wanted to come along and meet them, which of course I said yes to as I naturally wanted to meet his parents in person.
"We arrived here yesterday, and I had made it clear to James to inform his parents that I am dairy intolerant, and he reassured me that he had told them and they knew, so I assumed there was no issue there at all."
But there was an issue, as the original poster soon found out, as a tasty meal was being prepared - but not one that she'd be able to enjoy.
She continued: "So, onto the issue here. His mum was in the kitchen pretty much all day yesterday preparing a meal, and I have to say it smelled amazing. I asked her what the dish was, and she told me it was a chicken korma curry. I assumed that she had substituted the dairy ingredients (i.e. yoghurt and cream) with something else, so I thought nothing of it.
"Come time to eat, she presented me with the dish and it looked and smelled amazing. I asked her for confirmation if it was dairy free, and she looked at me as if I was some sort of alien and asked why on earth a chicken korma would be dairy free.
"I told her I was intolerant and she started getting extremely angry, saying that I should have told her earlier and she didn't have anything else she could make for me.
"James chimed in saying he DID tell her about my dairy intolerance, but then turned on me saying that it wasn't that bad of an intolerance and I should just eat it. I honestly just felt really backed into a corner so I started crying, saying I’m sorry but I can't eat this, and then I left and booked myself into a nearby motel.
"James keeps calling me saying how upset his mum and dad are, and saying how I disrespected his mom by not at least trying her meal.
"I feel really upset and maybe I should've just eaten a few bites and sucked it up? The intolerance isn't so severe that I'd end up in the hospital but then again I'd rather not have raging diarrhoea! also I feel like I shouldn’t have just stormed out like that. Am I the a**hole?"
People were furious at her boyfriend in the comments, wondering why he hadn't highlighted the severity of her issues to his mum.
One wrote: "You just learned that 1. your boyfriend lied to you about telling her, and 2. he would rather you be in horrific pain and discomfort than admit the truth.
"This boy does not care about you. This is your first red flag and you need to pay attention to it. Leave him."
Another fumed: "Why was he fake apologetic on the phone, to then come by the hotel to then rant at her all over again? She needs to get on that flight and never see this guy again."
"He also doesn't take her intolerance seriously if he says it isn't so bad and she should just suck it up", someone raged.
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