I am a woman of 30 who is attracted to older men. I find men of my own age unattractive and the idea of sex with them almost repulsive. It feels like a fetish, and stops me from having “normal” relationships. I don’t think I have daddy issues – my relationship with my parents is stable and loving. I have been in a relationship with a 60-year-old for a year and his children (who aren’t much younger than me) refuse to meet me. The reactions of others are, at best, bemused, but sometimes judgmental or rude. I’ve never wanted children so I’m not worried now, but what of the future? I feel I’m destined to have nothing but a string of inevitably flawed relationships and will end up sad and lonely.
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