I’m 46 and haven’t been in a relationship for years. I have tried internet dating and am sick of the pub scene, although I would talk to anyone and am told I am funny. I am kind and sensitive and would do anything for people I care about. I’m not bad looking – I was never pretty, but neither am I Princess Fiona from Shrek. I take care of myself but not to the point of being obsessive. When I was younger, I dated very good-looking men and always fell for the wrong guys. I’m happy alone, but would love a relationship. I don’t know if I will ever meet someone and fall in love.
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