When giving birth, there are many things your partner could do to make things a little bit easier for you.
Offering a hand to hold, providing you with a distraction such as music or a magazine, or even just having a nice conversation with you to take your mind off the excruciating pain you’re in.
Note that your partner referring to you as a ‘hormonal mess’ isn’t on that list.
That’s because it’s really not a good idea at all, and one man got kicked out of his child’s birth because of the hurtful comment.
The new mum took has since taken to Reddit to ask whether she was in the wrong for asking him to leave after he made the unforgivable comment.
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She wrote: “My husband (34M) and me (32F) just had our first child today.
“We were in the delivery room together, all was going well, I was in a lot of pain, but he was really supportive. The midwife was asking us questions about the baby etc in between contractions just to help me ease my mind a little.
“Then she said if we are excited about the pregnancy being over and I said that yes, because it's been hard for me. My husband snorted and said "for me too, she was so difficult". Midwife tried to change the subject, but I asked my husband what the f he means by that, and he said that he is happy it's over and he will get his wife back and the hormonal mess is over.
“I was so hurt and told him to please just leave the room. He said he's not going anywhere because his child is being born here. I yelled at him to get the f out and he was p**sed off, called me an AH for making him miss his kid's birth and stormed off.
“He hasn't been back to see our daughter, he is supposed to come later today.”
People were quick to defend the new mum, saying her husband should never have said something like that at such an intimate time.
One said: “It's unbelievable the number of posts saying that she should just tolerate whatever he says because watching someone else give birth is a once in a lifetime opportunity for a man.
“Well, if it means that much to him, he could have behaved himself like a supportive partner and kept his stupid, insulting and demeaning jokes to himself. Pregnancy is hard and any man who can't give his wife the respect she deserves for what she has done shouldn't be in the delivery room.”
“If watching your child come into the world is treated like a right and not a privilege than GTFO frankly”, one fumed.
Another pointed out that her husband is normally cracking lots of jokes, but was respectful when she was giving birth.
She wrote: “My husband is normally a joker and I was actually counting on some of his silly jokes during delivery to help ease my stress. Turns out my husband was so nervous he hardly said a word. If seeing the delivery is important to someone they will behave. This man that OP talks about is a true AH.”
Another angry commenter said: “The entitlement. It's not about the man, the only person anyone should be worrying about is the person GIVING BIRTH. IT'S NOT A CIRCUS ACT.”
“She’s always going to remember this. I’ll never forget my ex-husband refusing to hold my hand while I was in labour because I was squeezing too hard and it hurt him. Notice I said ex-husband”, someone remarked.
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