Dear Coleen
I met my partner about six months before Covid happened. We’d been seeing each other only a few weeks when I found out I was pregnant with our daughter.
Even though we didn’t know each other that well, we both felt sure about our incredible chemistry, so we decided to go ahead and be a family.
We’re happy and thinking of having another child.
But I’ve started to worry a lot that we’ve missed out on that important stage of being a couple without the responsibilities of having children.
There hasn’t been much romance since and I worry that it makes our relationship vulnerable.
Should I be worried or am I obsessing over nothing?
What advice would you give to this reader? Have your say in the comment section
Coleen says
I don’t think you need to worry, but I think it’s always good to be aware of where your relationship is at and whether or not it needs some nurturing.
It’s never too late to bring the romance. You can start doing those things now that you feel you’ve missed out on – having days and evenings out on your own or even a night or weekend away if your parents or a sibling can look after your daughter.
It’s important to focus on yourselves and your relationship sometimes.
With the above in mind, why not have a discussion about putting the baby plans on hold for a while? Maybe a period of time reconnecting as a couple is what you need right now.
