A Nashville woman’s viral TikTok about a Hinge match canceling their second date due to a “stronger connection” has ignited debate over the emotional toll of dating apps.
“When I say I’m done dating, I’m done dating,” said one TikToker, Andrea (@ajdsing94), in a viral video from May 11. The video has amassed over 190,000 views as of Monday.
Andrea describes going on a date that she believed was great. “It is one of the best first dates I think I have ever had in my entire life,” she said. “And he agrees.”
She said they both agreed to go on a second date, and he even texted her 20 minutes after she got home to start scheduling a second date. Andrea said he texted her the next day with dinner reservations and suggested that if dinner goes well, they can get a drink after. “I’m swooning at this point,” she said.
Hinge match cancels date
However, the day before the planned second date, his behavior took a turn. “He messages me the most cryptic message and says, ‘Hey, Andrea, I’m gonna have to cancel our date tomorrow. I have a stronger connection with somebody else, and it doesn’t feel fair to do that with multiple people even though it’s early.’”
“So where was this other connection when you were getting me excited for our second date that you planned and made reservations for?” Andrea asked her TikTok audience.
People are tired of Hinge dating culture
Viewers were divided. Many comments supported her frustration toward the modern dating app landscape, while some applauded the man’s apparent honesty.
“Seems like an honest guy who is not a player,” wrote one commenter.
“I give him credit,” said another. “He could have led you on. You should thank him for his honesty.”
However, many users echoed her frustration, similarly criticising the version of dating vulture fostered by dating apps.
“Annoying but unfortunately part of today’s dating culture,” said one individual. “Try not to get too invested too soon, and don’t hand him the power of affecting you to quit the apps. That’ll only boost his ego.”
“He’s going to do the same to the ‘stronger connection,’” wrote another. “You dodged a bullet.”
“The apps strike again,” added a third. “I almost fell into this trap and simultaneously dating and making a ton of micro connections. You cannot date this way. Someone will always end up hurt.”
Do dating apps like Hinge affect your mental health?
As dating apps become increasingly integrated into modern-day culture, there is an increasing amount of research that indicates dating apps might have a negative toll on the mental health of their users. The New York Times reported in June 2022 that nearly 80% of long-term dating app users had experienced emotional burnout or fatigue.
One study from April 2025 indicated that the for-profit model of dating apps might be linked to increased depression and anxiety, disproportionately impacting the psychological well-being of men specifically.
@ajdsing94 No like what? I give up #dating #singlelife #healingera #breakup #single #hingedate ♬ original sound – ajdsing
The Mary Sue reached out to Hinge and Andrea for comment.
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