It's never okay to make cruel or manipulative remarks about your partner's body or general appearance, especially after they've been through something as life-changing as childbirth.
As such a woman who gave birth two months ago has been left in "disbelief" after her own boyfriend made hurtful comments about her postpartum body, even going as far as to encourage her to get a breast lift.
While walking around in the kitchen in a tank top and underwear, the new mum claims she noticed her boyfriend staring at her "with a weird expression" and asked what was up.
She couldn't have anticipated what his response would be.
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Taking to Reddit, the unnamed woman revealed that he'd replied, "I'm just sitting here thinking 'damn, I picked that".
Thinking at first that he was "joking" or commenting on her "attitude or messy hair or some other dumb sh*t", she asked what exactly he meant.
Imitating the way she was walking, he said: "Like this, stomach out, boobs down to here, ass sticking out like you're a baby with a full diaper."
He added: "At least the underwear holds your a** up."
The poster admits she feels self-conscious about changes to her breasts during pregnancy and has explained that she also has a degenerative spine condition that affects the way she walks.
She wrote: "I'm probably going to the store in the morning to buy some extra hoodies and pyjama pants. I need to do laundry so I thought I was safe walking around in just underwear and a tank top, but I guess I was wrong. It's like me losing all of the baby weight plus a few pounds in two months' time wasn't good enough for him".
The mum went on to add that she wishes she "could get a reduction or a lift", but believes her boyfriend "doesn't realise that if I have another kid, it'll undo the effects of a reduction or a lift. Yet he tells me how I could use a breast lift".
She continued: "I'm not going to pretend that I have the perfect body, and yes couples should be honest with each other, but I feel like there's a line that a man shouldn't cross when talking to his girlfriend about her body's flaws. Especially when she's two months postpartum".
The woman added that she was in tears while writing out the post and that she feels "s***ty" about her body.
Fellow Reddit users have been quick to call out the boyfriend's behaviour, reassuring the mum that she deserves so much better than to put up with someone who tries to put her down in this way.
One person wrote: "Would you talk to him like that, or anyone for that matter? No? Exactly. It’s really that simple to not be a piece of sh*t. He’s trying to hurt your feelings and succeeded. No one happy with themselves goes around bringing others down.
"If this is a one-off statement then have an honest conversation about it and how it made you feel with him. If you can’t talk to him about it or he doesn’t care then have an honest conversation with yourself as to why you would put up with it".
Another said: "Anyone who says that to his partner after birthing his child is a douche with absolute certainty. For the good of the species stop breeding with this guy".
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