A woman is seriously tired of her 'lazy' husband's 'weaponised incompetence' as he never cleans up after himself, does not pull his weight with parenting and makes her job harder than 'their four-year-old'.
She is a stay at home mum and explains that in their family dynamic, she's happy to do the majority of the household chores when her husband works a full-time job. However, she insists that he doesn't do a single thing around the house, lets his own mess build up and refuses to help with parenting too.
In a Reddit post, the woman, who remained anonymous, wrote: "He is so lazy at home that he can't even throw an empty bottle of water away. I counted 20 empty ones on his nightstand table last week and he left several scattered throughout the house.
"I stand at the sink washing dishes for an hour and he comes in behind me to drop one cereal bowl and spoon in the sink and can't even wash it."
She added that he does not even fold his laundry and put it away. Instead, he decides to stack them up on top of the dresser which leaves a pile of clothes which could fall over.
"I don't think he's used the hoover or mop in the six years we've been together," she admitted.
"This is all just a scrape on the surface. It's so much more than that, but I am so so tired. I've tried calmly bringing it up to him, I've tried losing my absolute s***, I've tried not saying anything at all because I know this is how it will always be. It never changes.
"When I have brought it up, he says 'I just don't see the messes the way you do so I don't think to do it', as if he can't see a mountain of dishes or laundry, or grass and dirt tracked through the house.
"I'm sick of the weaponized incompetence and like I'm supposed to mother him."
In response, many felt her pain and offered their advice on how to handle the situation.
One person wrote: "Stating the obvious but 'seeing a mess' is not necessary to maintain a clean home. Do you think the cleaner cleans according to the mess they 'see'. No, they clean according to a schedule, like once an hour or at the end of the day. Same idea applies to the home."
While another stated: "Just stop cleaning up after him. Don't wash and fold his clothes. When he has nothing to wear, he'll see the mess."
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