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Saffron Otter

'I didn't send my daughter to university to die - there were so many missed red flags'

Like all parents, Liz de Oliveira sent her child off to university in the hope that they would pursue their dreams.

Only her bright, young daughter never returned home.

In 2017, Lucy de Oliveira was 22 when she took her own life in her bedroom while studying for a paediatric nursing degree at Liverpool John Moores.

Liz argues that her daughter's death was preventable, which is why she and 25 other parents are calling on the Government to introduce a statutory duty of care for students at universities across the country.

The mum-of-two says Lucy, from Kidderminster, Worcestershire, never had any mental health problems until her second year at university, when she was put on antidepressants.

She'd moved from halls into a student house with four other girls, which she wanted to leave but was struggling to get out of the tenancy agreement. She was working 36-hour weeks at a hospital on placement and had recently split from her boyfriend.

Once her rent was paid, single mum Liz says Lucy had just £6 to live off.

Lucy died at the age of 22 whilst studying in Liverpool (Liz de Oliveira)
Her mum Liz says she will 'never get over losing a child' (Liz de Oliveira)

To make ends meet, she worked in a pizza restaurant as well as a care home in the remaining hours of the week she had left.

But because of a nervous twitch she developed, Liz says she was dropped from the placement as it was deemed unsafe for her to practice.

Although Lucy didn't say as much, Liz thinks it all became too much for her daughter and that her situation was riddled with 'red flags'.

The 65-year-old, who saw Lucy 24 hours before her death, didn't realise the extent of her worries until it was too late - but wishes university staff members had joined the dots together.

Six years after her tragic death, Liz tells the Mirror: "It doesn't get any better. You don't ever get over losing a child.

"I just think it was preventable and that's the worst of it. That I was the last person to know.

"The things that happened to Lucy, taken individually on their own, probably didn't seem serious.

"But if there had been some kind of central system, like with a red flag, they would have been red flags all over Lucy because of all the different things she was going through at that time.

Lucy pictured with her brother Alex, who felt compelled to quit university (Liz de Oliveira)

"She wasn't somebody who suffered from poor mental health, she was just a very, very normal young girl.

"I helped as much as I could but she was very proud, and independent, she wouldn't want to worry me.

"She had the work pressure, doing shifts for the NHS, she was seeing children die, she had the study pressure.

"If they'd had the whole picture, I always think they would have acted very differently. And I would have expected to have received a call due to what was going on.

"Universities have guidance, where you can opt-in and opt out and that's the problem.

"I saw her the day before she died. If I'd have known I wouldn't have let her go back, it's as simple as that."

Currently, there is no law in the UK dictating how universities should operate when it comes to the health and well-being of students.

They take guidance and policy from Universities UK, which works with 140 universities across the country; the government and stakeholders to continue improving the UK's higher education sector.

Liz argues that there are too many disparities depending on where students go, and instead believes every university should have a centralised system in place that guarantees their safety.

Lucy would do anything to help others, Liz says (Liz de Oliveira)

The family even came across problems when her son Alex, now 32, enrolled at university and struggled to receive support for his epilepsy.

Fearing she could lose another child, her son quit halfway through his course.

"At the moment, it's one university does one thing and another university does another thing, some bother, some don't. It's just like a lottery," Liz states.

"I want people to understand that it isn't just extreme situations a statutory duty of care would cover but many everyday ones too - such as needing a deadline extension, standard of teaching, student experience as a whole at university.

"We're just asking them to take reasonable care to ensure that their students are not harmed by the university's actions or lack of action.

"If they are actually following best practice, then they should not have a problem with this. Because it'll potentially protect them and potentially will give them a defence.

"If there's an action in negligence, they can say, 'We've followed all the guidance to the tee, we've done everything we should have done.'"

Lucy - meeting the late Queen on placement - was a 'top student' with her whole life ahead of her (Liz de Oliveira)

Following a spate of university suicides, a group of bereaved parents came together to form action group, The LEARN Network, and this year have been joined by #ForThe100 - comprising of skilled professionals dedicated to protecting higher education students with a statutory duty of care. The group includes academics, lawyers and mental health practitioners.

They created a petition to call on the government to introduce a law, and after receiving more than 100,000 signatures, it is being debated by MPs in Westminster this afternoon.

A concern about the proposal however is that it could potentially criminalise a university for failing to prevent a suicide.

But if it is approved, Liz feels that her daughter's devastating death wouldn't have been for nothing, and that change can come so that no other family has to go through what they have.

"I would feel at least Lucy hadn't died completely in vain. Nothing will bring her back, my family have absolutely devastated," she says.

"I just hope the politicians actually take notice. It's important. How would they feel if it was their child?

Liz says she will keep fighting to ensure no family has to go through what they have (Liz de Oliveira)

"We are not hysterical bereaved parents. Yes, we are bereaved but we aren’t hysterical. We have seen with our own eyes this is happening and it’s continuing to happen."

In the year Lucy died, the Office for National Statistics revealed nearly 100 university students killed themselves.

Between the academic year ending 2017 and the academic year ending 2020, the male suicide rate for higher education students was statistically significantly higher (5.6 deaths per 100,000 students; 202 suicide deaths) compared with female students at 2.5 deaths per 100,000 students (117 suicide deaths) - which is in line with the trend seen in the general population where suicide rates are higher among males.

Former barrister Liz, who had to quit work after her daughter's suicide, describes Lucy as one of those people that would light up a room.

"Lucy was a character. She was a kind, caring soul, she looked after everybody - the trouble is she couldn't look after herself," Liz reflects.

Lucy alongside her father, Barnabe (Liz de Oliveira)
"She was absolutely stunning" (Liz de Oliveira)

"As half Brazillian, she was absolutely stunning. A decent human being, beautiful inside and out.

"I've had messages from the grown-up teenagers she helped in the children's hospital. It isn't just me, my family, everyone she looked after, the people she worked with, the people in the old people’s home she looked after, her friends, it's affected thousands of people.

"She was a star pupil, a brilliant nurse. Lucy was 20 when she started her university, placement and in one of her first shifts she saved a child's life, that's who we've lost. That is who society has lost. These are the type of children we are losing.

"I'm not saying one life is more important than other but they all had a future as university students. If more care had been taken they'd all still be here having that future.

"Instead of that, all us parents are sitting there thinking now what? I can't replace her. I miss her every single day.

"I can't bring her back, all I can do in her memory is make sure other families don't go through this hell.

"I wasn't given a chance to help. I gave birth to her and brought her up single-handedly. I didn't send her to university to die. It’s as simple as that."

The devastated family carrying Lucy's coffin at her funeral (Liz de Oliveira)

She adds: "I will continue the fight until my last breath.

"If we don't win on Monday, believe me, it won't be the end. All of us are absolutely determined that we will get a change in the law."

Professor Steve West CBE, President of Universities UK and Vice-Chancellor of UWE Bristol, said: "Universities prioritise the mental health of students and staff and are particularly focused on preventing student suicide. Every life lost to suicide is a tragedy and we are committed to working with bereaved families to learn from these deaths.

"Record numbers of children and young adults are now experiencing poor mental health and this is reflected in growing student need. Although universities are investing in student support and developing partnerships with NHS services, their primary role is as settings for adult learning not health care.

"We do not believe the proposed additional statutory duty of care, beyond the existing duties that already apply to universities, would be practical, proportionate, or the best approach to supporting students.

"We continue to work with the government, and its Student Support Champion Professor Edward Peck, on proposals to improve outcomes for students."

The Mirror approached Liverpool John Moores for comment.

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