I am a 34-year-old man who wants to fall in love and settle down but seems unable to. I've had relationships (the longest was three years) with women I've been fond of and with whom I've had great sex, but I haven't loved anyone since my first girlfriend at 18. I feel excited as relationships begin, but then become anxious and disconnected, and split up with them. After, I feel love, but it is too late, and is it real? I see friends getting married and wish I could be like them, but can't imagine feeling strongly enough. I can't see any reasons for my defects: I come from a loving family and life has been good, though I'm often anxious and have low self-esteem. I want to sort myself out so I can commit to someone.
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