Over the next year, a lot of my close friends are getting married, turning 30 or having hen parties. I live a long way from most of my friends and while the events themselves are expensive, nobody seems to appreciate that so is the travel. (My partner and I are trying to save for a house.) No event is just one evening – they’re whole weekends. I’m trying to prioritise, but it’s hard having to keep mentioning money. It’s so difficult not wanting to let people down, but also trying not to sink into debt. I don’t know what to do.
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