We all know that weddings are supposed to be about the couple tying the knot, which is why many people say it's rude to announce big events such as pregnancies and engagements at someone else's wedding. And one man has landed himself in hot water after he told his family on the morning of his sister's wedding that he had eloped with his husband - but claims he did so by accident.
The man said he and his husband got married in secret in June and hadn't told their families, but when they were invited to his sister's wedding, they didn't think to take their rings off because they'd become "second nature" to them. So when his family questioned the rings during breakfast on the day of the wedding, the man had to come clean - leaving his sister fuming.
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In a Reddit post, the man claimed: "My husband and I eloped in late June. Neither of us had ever dreamed of a big wedding. We fell in love with the opposite concept, which was doing it privately and getting to keep that special memory something just between us two.
"We had plans to throw a party around our one-year anniversary so our families could celebrate with us then. So far we hadn't told my side of the family that we had tied the knot. We live a few hours away from them and wanted to be able to tell them in person rather than over the phone but hadn't had a chance so far.
"My sister got married yesterday, traditional wedding style. We drove down Friday afternoon and said our hellos, but kept to ourselves for the most part and let her and her bridal party do their thing. She was focused on a million other things and rings on mine and my husband's fingers were the last thing on her mind - as they were for us.
"Being married for almost two months means wearing those rings has just become second nature. I don't take it off and I hardly remember I'm wearing it unless someone points it out to me.
"The next morning, we were invited to have breakfast with my sister, my mother, and her bridal party. To make a long story short, my mum noticed mine and my husband's wedding bands and asked if 'they were what she thought they were'. We attempted to change the course of the conversation without outright lying, but my mother kept pushing until we finally admitted that yes, we had got married back in June.
"My sister got very angry and asked my husband and me to leave breakfast. We apologised profusely, but she held her ground. The rest of the day went off nicely, but we did ask members of the bridal party if she was still angry and they said yes and that she thought we had worn the rings specifically to steal the light of her big day.
"My husband and I are obviously very embarrassed, but we don't fully believe the onus falls on us here."
Commenters were split over the issue, but many said they believed the man was in the wrong, as he had two months to tell his family he had tied the knot, and could have left his ring at home.
One person said: "Sorry, I don't believe for a second you didn't have one thought between the two of you that wearing wedding bands wouldn't attract questions.
"Look, it's fine to elope. It's fine to have a small wedding. It's not okay to announce hours before a sibling's wedding that you eloped. That's just awkward for everyone. And attention-grabbing."
While another added: "It sounds like you didn't mean it but wearing your wedding rings effectively is announcing your marriage, and letting your family see them for the first time on your sister's wedding day is definitely going to upset her."
And a third posted: "Common courtesy is not to make big announcements at someone else's event. You should have either told people before the wedding or not worn the rings. I respect wanting a small or non-existent wedding, but hiding your marriage feels shady as f**k."
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