I have known the love of my life for a number of years: we met on the first day of secondary school, and I have loved her for most of the seven years since then. Nothing has happened between us, I have never even kissed her. Despite not having made an advance, I know these feelings are unreciprocated and have tried to put them behind me. However, I feel trapped by my love for her and recently halted the progression of a promising relationship because of my feelings towards her. Whenever I’m around her, I am reminded of everything that makes her perfect and, despite my best efforts, I fall in love again. We used to be great friends, but we have drifted into different social circles. With the end of A-levels, and university around the corner, we will probably lose contact and if I don’t act now I know I will lose her for ever. I have an urge to express my feelings, but I’m petrified by the thought of rejection. I fear making a fool of myself; it would crush me. I fear that my unrequited love will haunt me after we part. I know I am young, but I feel I will never meet someone else who could make me feel this way.
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