I am 30 years old, am studying for qualifications, doing well in my career and have an 11-year-old boy. I now find myself thinking about what life will be like when I am 40 and my son is 21. I do not want more children, but I am wondering what I will do with my life outside my career. I can’t help thinking that some of life’s big decisions may need to be shaped by a vision of the future – for example, the type of partner I settle with, where I will buy my first property and how I will fill my time. Can anyone help me through this mini life crisis?
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