When you’re pregnant, there are quite a few things you need those closest to you to be. Kind, caring, compassionate, and probably most of all - supportive.
Which is exactly what one woman’s husband wasn’t when he "snapped" at her for saying she was in pain.
She took to Reddit’s ‘Am I The A**hole’ forum to see whether people thought she was in the wrong to complain about the pain.
She wrote: “I'm 7 months pregnant. It has been very difficult for me with all the medical stuff and chronic pain I'm constantly dealing with. My husband gets annoyed every time I bring up how much pain I feel.
“It's not like I complain constantly but it has slowed me down which made my husband think I'm looking for excuses to not get anything done.
“Yesterday morning I woke up with terrible back pain. After I vented about it and expressed my discomfort. He "snapped" at me and told me that I was acting like a spoiled princess and that I'm a mother, I should start acting like one.
“I snapped back saying that he doesn't get to dictate how I should feel and deal with what I'm dealing with because he has no idea what it's like. He was like "yeah but we're in this together, I put the baby in there remember?"
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“I told him yes but he's not the one doing the work so he has it easy. He looked at me shocked and went quiet for a minute. He then said "Ah-Ha how typical! Trying to use the "I'm the mom" card against me already?, how much "leverage" are you planning to get with that". Which hurt because he made me feel like I'm milking it.
“We argued about it then he left and refused to respond to my phone calls all day. In the evening he got distant and ignored me when I tried to speak to him and then said that telling him he has it easy was way out of line and an awful attempt to discredit his efforts and sacrifices but all he does is provide. AITA?”
People were quick to comment that she is not the one in the wrong - she’s simply expressing the fact she was in pain to her significant other.
One angrily wrote: “Buddy had an orgasm and thinks it the equivalent of growing an entire tiny human. This is not how supportive partners act toward their pregnant wife.”
“Exactly. When did an orgasm become equal to literally risking your life? I would be furious if my partner tried to pull that. Furious”, another agreed.
Another came with a cautionary tale about her own relationship, urging the original poster to not ignore the behaviour of her partner.
Do you think she's right to be upset? Have your say in the comment section below.
She wrote: “I hope this doesn’t get buried, but my ex went from lots of red flags to being physically and verbally abusive and cruel once I got pregnant.
“I don’t want to make assumptions, but please be careful as this is common. My ex HATED that I was sick during my pregnancy, and had pains.
“This is not normal or ok. Protect yourself and your child. He later strangled me with my child in my arms when my child was less than 2. Pay attention to the warning signs, PLEASE.”
One fumed: “It's not supportive or mature. He's acting like OP is going to be a mom so all her pain should just vanish or she should suck it up. I guess I'm a spoiled princess if that's how it works.”
Another saw the funny side of how ridiculous it is to say he created the baby, writing, “I told my hubby, you donated half a lego brick, I built a f**kng T-Rex!! (We have toddlers).”
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