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The Guardian - AU
The Guardian - AU
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Guardian community team

How do you feel about emotional affairs? Tell us about your experiences

An illustration using a 16th-century painting titled The Venetian Lovers, of a couple embracing while another man looks on
Tell us: what are your thoughts about emotional affairs? Painting: The Venetian Lovers, 1525-30, by Paris Bordone. Illustration: The Guardian

The phrase “emotional affair” is controversial. Some people deny they even exist, but a certain kind of closeness with someone outside a partnership has spelled the end of many relationships.

While a sexual dalliance may be the litmus test of betrayal to some, others draw the borders of fidelity differently.

Have you found yourself in an unconsummated entanglement with someone other than your significant other? Been blindsided by a partner who has developed a “friendship” that compromised the trust between you? Or has a crush on someone else been a source of reinvigoration within your relationship?

We want to hear how your relationship has survived, succumbed or thrived in the face of intangible feelings.

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