Sometimes you feel like you know everything there is to know about your family, and sometimes, some secrets that were hidden suddenly shake up your world. Share some juicy secrets that your family hid from you!
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I had a twin sister who died after a few days of our birth. No one in my family (extended included) mentions her. I recently turned seventeen when my dad mentioned her for the first time to me and my younger brother. He also told us not to tell our mom that we now know about her. When he mentioned her, he was really sad and looked in so much pain, I didn't have the guts to ask anything.
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my mom and dads first bf and gf were siblings and that’s how they met, BUT my mom’s bf proposed to her, she said no, he got mad and broke up with her. my dad went to her house (cause they knew each other from the peeps they dated) and was like “do you want me to beat his a*s?” she said no, and then my dads gf came, thought they were *AHEM* doing things, broke up with him and my dad was like “hey *moms name* wanna date?” and that’s how they started dating i guess.My surname is a lie.... It was just the pseudonym used by my grandfather to gain his British citizenship in 1908.....My mother he was very religious, always seeking God, never seeming to find him. When she died, I was executor of her estate. I was going through her personal documents when I saw a written exercise she was doing for a religious study: what sins she felt she needed forgiveness for. One of them was that she felt guilty and unworthy of God because she was molested by her uncle and cousin when she was in grade school and her entire family blamed her for "tempting" them. She went to her grave believing she was responsible for a crime committed against her. Broke my heart to learn that. She never told any of us.Took a DNA test via one of the genealogy groups. I don't have a large extended family, and know all my cousins, etc., or so I thought. Nothing unusual showed up until last year, when a seemingly impossibly close match turned up. It turned out to be a half-uncle none were aware of. When I started looking into our genealogy, my dad said he didn't want to know anything that turned up. My father, now in his 90s, had a half brother all his life that he never knew about... and still doesn't. The DNA caught my grandfather fooling around - 90+ years after the fact.My father and his siblings have an older, mentally disabled sister living in a care home that nobody except my grandparents know about. I only found out because when my father died her legal carertaker messaged me about information about the inheritance.
Still a secret, since nobody talks to me anyways ¯_(ツ)_/¯In 1916 my 16 year old maternal grandmother hopped a train from New Jersey to California and married a dying veteran. It was planned by him to have someone to leave his pension to. Then grandma and a girlfriend went to visit South Dakota where she met my Canadian grandfather and married him in 1920. The 1st husband died in 1923.
My paternal German great grandmother never married but had 10 children with a german soldier. She told my grandfather he should go to America because things were getting sketchy in Germany. He came to America in 1911 (when you had to have a sponsor) met and married my Swiss grandmother.my grandma's brother is married to his cousin. also my cousins are best friends with the jonas brothers.My dad was in love with a girl but she died in a car crash. I dont think they were a couple but im not sure. This was before he dated my mother. Heard it from my aunt.
Also, my younger sister had a crush on a high school teacher, an old and balding man. She wrote him a note confessing her crush, he turned her down (ofcourse!). I know from a cousin.
When my other sister was pregnant, her hb confessed he had a child from a previous relationship but he has no contact with the kid. My sister told me and our mother. We never told any of our siblings. Her hb - now ex - was also in debts and charged for other s**t we found out later.
For lots of reasons I have no contact with these sisters anymore and for the better, it was a lot of drama.when my dad proposed to my mom, they set the date for july 17th, 2017. apparently they couldn't wait and got married in my grandparents apartment in april of that year. my grandmother was the only witness, none of my aunts/uncles know, and i just figured this out a month or two ago. i was appalled. i mean, they never told me anything. i was like "dayum"
also apparently i have a half sister that my dad had outside of my bio mom's marriage.Not really a secret but I was told about it quite late, when my granddad died. Appearently my mother didn't had a good upbringing and my granddad wasnt a good dad or husband.
He was in the army, identified very much with that thing, but also felt like him, as the only man in the Home, should be boss.
Discussions with him werent possible without fighting because his opinion would be the only correct opinion.
He could be pretty aggressive too, with language, sometimes my mom and her sisters got hit too. Also by my grandmother, I should add.
Theres a story about my granddad coming home drunk and was shouting nonsense and saluting with his gun in the hallway so my nine year old mum hided in the closet because she was (obviously) scared...
All in all a pretty bad atmosphere to raise your kids.
He also said some pretty rough things about my mentally disabled brother too.
I understand that he also had his own trauma that could explain his behaviours to a point. Hes been through the second world war, escaped from Pomerania to Germany (where we live today) when he was 13 years old, was forced to watch his own cousin getting raped.
Still, Im so sorry for my mum that she had to had a childhood like this.My dog is gay.My dad:
1. Had seggs with a random lady he met while he was married to my mum
2. Lied to me about it for 5 years
3. Is getting married to this person in march
4. Is inviting someone who sexually abused me to said wedding.
Life sucks :)I found out not long ago from a family member that after they went through several rounds of invitro that finally resulted in success, apparently with triplets, one fetus had to be aborted to save the other two. I don't think anyone else in my family knows and I'm not about to say anything.Learned about a kid my father had between me(39) and bro(41). There are more, so the story goesthat my grandfather wasn't my biological one.my uncle said it in passing. never even asked mommy great grandmother, who was the sweetest person on this earth, had a first husband that not a lot of people knew about. he was super abusive and an alcoholic so she left him and her first two children are his. one of those first two kids took from his dad and over dosed before i was born.On vacation with my divorced parents, 15 years old, not sure why they signed up for the same trip. Anyway, my inebriated dad shares with me that I have a 1/2 sister born to my mom 2 years before me and put up for adoption #instantsiblingjustaddrumMy great-grandparents came here from Ireland about the time of the second potato famine. My grandmother was orphaned at an early age, and she and her brother grew up in an orphanage. At some point, they were sent west on an "Orphan Train" and lived with a family in Missouri. After a while, she came back east, married some guy at age 16, then said she didn't want to live with him. She got divorced and went back to the orphanage. A few years later she married my grandfather.
My cousin did some excellent research, for which I will always be grateful. We don't think anyone in the family ever knew any of this, including my dad and his siblings.We only learnt about it after my Grandma passed away.. her sister was actually her mother.
At a young age her sister fell pregnant after being r*ped. It was all hidden and her mother took the baby on as her own.. apparently no one questioned why her and a sibling were 6months apart in age.A few years ago my dad told me that his cousin (she had just found out herself) told him that their grandfather had 2 kids with another woman in between his kids with my great grandmother. My grandma, aunts,and uncles knew about them but never talked about them.I've recently connected with my birth family. Found out I have a slightly younger brother in Japan. My father refuses to give my sister and I any information on him. I'm hoping someday he'll show up on my list of relatives on Ancestry.com.My paternal grandfather had another family before he met my grandma. I found out at his funeral, when after the military 21 gun salute, the American flag was handed to a man who was not my father.This isn't nearly as interesting as the rest. My father lied to me for years.
I found out later that turning on the light inside the car while driving was actually not illegal.My mom was trying to get her (my father)'s social security benefits. I told her it was a waste of time because he paid in a lot less than she did. So she goes to the county to get a marriage certificate. Nope. He only got the church certificate. Not the legal one. It was the 1960s. I just cracked up when I broke it to her the she was never legally married to my father. But they had a legal divorce. So I looked that up and she wasn't even common law in that state at that time. So. I am a bastard child.this family secret could be the basis of a gothic novel. it involves nostly my grandmother, my aunt, and my mom but my great grandfather also played a significant role in the way things played out. first, my grand's mom was lost in a fire when she was very young (she was born in 1917, btw). so her dad decided to send her off to a convent school to be raised. she returned home around the age of 15 or 16. It had been shared over the years that the relationships between my mom, my aunt, my grandmother and great grandfather were complicated. Apparently, my grandmother favored my aunt but was dismissive to almost the point of abuse of my mom. On the other hand, my great grandfather, while never mean or abusive to my aunt, didn’t really have much interaction with her but doted on my mom. And, as you can imagine, his actions just kind of fed the resentful treatment of my mom and the coddling of my aunt. It was also shared with me that my mom and aunt, who had a good relationship with each other, were very aware that they didn’t look like each other either. Finally, they decided to sit my grandmother down and ask her some pointed questions about their family history and this is what was revealed. When my grandmother was back at home she basically took care took care of dad and her older brother. But, she met a young man who was of irish descent while her family was Portuguese through and through. Seems that my grandfather did not approve of the pair as he wanted her to marry a Portuguese man. They decided to elope and were gone for about a week or so. Upon returning to my grandfather to announce their marriage, he blew a gasket at the news and, because she was a minor, had the marriage annulled. But, there was a slight problem: having consummated their marriage, my grandmother became pregnant with my aunt. However, because grandfather had annulled the marriage, making it for all intent and purpose, having never happened, it essentially turned my aunt into an illegitimate child which, for the times, was an embarassment. He then married her off to an older well off man who was my mother’s father. All of this was news to my mom and my aunt but it explained so much in regards to how they were treated differently. They did get the name of my aunt’s father and I have tried to search for any thing I could find but as of now there is zero return on any of the search. All of them have passed on now but there are times when I think to myself that if my great grandfather hadn’t been such a controlling person how different my grandmother’s life would have been as she bore his contempt for the rest of his life in spite of her adoring him and taking care of him to the best of her ability.
sorry for the broken off attempt at posting this previously if it shows up as a 'double.:My two Cousins never knew tat their Mother was married two times before she married their Dad, My Dad helped her get two divorces.We only learnt about it after my Grandma passed away.. her sister was actually her mother.
At a young age her sister fell pregnant after being r*ped. It was all hidden and her mother took the baby on as her own.. apparently no one questioned why her and a sibling were 6months apart in age.this family secret could be the basis of a gothic novel. it involves nostly my grandmother, my aunt, and my mom but my great grandfather also played a significant role in the way things played out.
first, my grand's mom was lost in a fire when she was very young (she was born in 1917, btw). so her dad decided to send her off to a convent school to be raised. she returned home around the age of 15 or 16.My sister has a boy/girlfriend and nobody in my family knows. I was looking through a stack of paper and I saw in her handwriting, I love you and I will come visit you soon. We recently moved to another country so I was kinda confused and worried. If my sister has a special someone, why has no one said anything? I have trust issues so I am really questioning our relationship. We are really close (I think) and I want to figure this out.My uncle (dad's brother) tried to with my mum while drunk. My dad whooped his azz. Less than a year later my dad had seggs with some random he met while fully sober since he"earned it" after defending my mum from his drunk brother. Found this all out a month ago, and the "random person" is now my dad's fiancé.
